My version includes: championing another person's sovereignty. Letting another person have an experience of their choosing, in their quest for their own happiness and growth. That experience might not be an experience *I* choose. It might not even include me.
Many couples are doing okay but feel like something is missing. Others may have a sense that they are great friends, but not great lovers. Some feel like they are only roommates, or that they have been disconnected for years, fueling resentment. The great news is, that wherever your relationship is now is not where it needs to stay.
When you block yourself from feeling a wave of emotion, you block your physical body as a way to block the emotion. After years of this, your body stops moving. And chances are, you don't feel much of anything.